Assume to assume

I enjoy being surprised by people.... finding out about new talents, random likes, dislikes, everyhthing. I think it's one of the reasons you can spend large amounts of time with someone. But on occasion I can be really assumptive of how others are thinking, feeling; instead of being open, easy it all seems finalistic. People change, feelings change....even moment to moment. And that's as true of me as it is for everyone else. But change is hard.

I'm not even sure whether it's harder when it's your decision or another persons that you have to deal with.

I think when it's ourselves we get grass greener on the other side syndrome and are prone to second guessing. When it's others there is little we can do except try to work out why, and often it's a blind stupid alley.

We'll never know what spurs others to do the things they do, and that seems big frightening yet exciting. Probably about just living the way you want to and accepting that the control you possess starts and ends with yourself. It's not doing things at the expense of others, not malicious; but it's making your own choices. And, importantly, letting others make theirs.

I wonder if that's also the nature of friendship, people choosing to share the things that's drive them. If we really want to know, we should ask; if a person wants us to know, they tell.